So what about me?  Your wife has just been diagnosed with breast cancer, you feel helpless, she has a support group and counselling,  you’re trying your hardest to say the right thing but would love to just talk about your own fears.

The first time it happened to me I thought  “just great now what do I do?”  “Will I be alone?” Was I being selfish? Maybe I was? Was it self preservation? Who knows but I needed to talk my fears through, they built up and up and I wasn’t about to dump on my wife, she has enough on her hands.  I wasn’t fortunate enough to find a place to go to talk it over and as such I suffered in silence, in the last few years I thought more and more about what is available for us men, not a lot really, yeah there’s web sites but there’s only so much you can read

I would think, “Christ what will she look like after therapy?  Can I love a bald woman?  What will she look like after the operation?”  You try to be supportive, say positive things but those thoughts just keep coming back “what if?”, “why me?”, “why now?”, “Why my wife (neigh, my better half)?

You probably know you’re not alone but at this moment you don’t wanna hear other’s moaning about their worries, as a man you just wanna ‘fix it’, “just leave me alone and be quite while I think of a solution…!”

This is one problem you can’t fix with a hammer and nail, but there are ‘tool kit’s’ for you, talking about it to others in the same boat as you, knowing you can ask those questions out loud without dumping your own fears on the one physically affected, with cancer all those around you are affected in different way, for you its mentally sometimes it causes you to lose sleep which can then affect you physically.  What have you to lose? Meet others in the same boat, don’t wanna talk then don’t, come along and just listen.  We have an expert you can ask.  You can then find out if I still love that BALD woman…see you there